Quick Life Update

Since my last blog, I officially completed the first phase of my camper renovation! I tore out the old bed, side tables, and dining booth—and in their place, I added a new bed with storage underneath (huge shoutout to my brother, the real MVP, for putting it together!). I also created a little desk area so I can work on the road, and swapped the booth for a cozy futon that makes the space feel much more inviting.

Now that the big changes are done, I’m planning to live in the camper for a bit to get a feel for the space and figure out where I want to add more personal touches—like wallpaper, shelving, or art. For now, I’ll be parked in Illinois, but I already have a few ideas brewing for where I might head next.

Stay tuned—this journey is just getting started!

As I clear out and rebuild my physical space, I’ve been thinking a lot about the emotional spaces I’ve been holding onto too—and how sometimes, the hardest part of growth is trusting that if something is meant to be, it’ll return on its own.

The Illusion of Holding On

We don’t always realize how tightly we’re gripping something until our hands start to ache.

Holding on can feel like safety. Letting go can feel like loss. But what if clinging to something that’s already slipping away is the very thing keeping us from receiving what’s next?

So, what am I afraid to let go of?
Holding onto someone who isn’t ready to meet me where I am now.

Why, you ask? Well, let’s go back to my childhood wounds — where I learned that safety meant controlling my environment and everything in it. I never knew what to expect growing up in a chaotic, alcoholic home, so I performed, kept the peace, did what I was told… all to feel “safe.”

I carried that behavior into adulthood, especially into my relationships. It showed up as people-pleasing, letting men take advantage of me sexually, and constantly putting others’ needs before my own—just to prove I was worthy of love.

I’ve held onto the belief that if I let go of control, I’ll lose my safety net.
That belief was built in my darkest hours.

But now, when I rise into the light, I see how it’s only hurting me—keeping me small. And if I’m being really honest? It chips away at my self-confidence.

At my core, I want to be seen.
Not for attention, not for applause.
But seen for who I really am. Authentically.

I don’t want to perform for someone to recognize my worth.
Because I am whole, today, exactly as I am.

And someone who is also whole—someone ready—will recognize that in me.

Knowing this means I can finally honor my needs.
And that is what true self-worth looks like.

The Truth About Soul Ties

Have you ever felt so undeniably pulled toward someone and had no idea why?
That’s what we call a soul tie.

I used to believe that meant soulmate energy—and in some ways, it is. But soul ties come in many forms, and it’s important to know the difference. One I know all too well is the karmic connection—the kind that shows up to teach you about your patterns.

Soulmates are real. But when one person has done the work and is ready for soul-aligned love, and the other isn’t? That’s when things get complicated.

Sometimes, you’re meant to enter someone’s life not to build a future with them, but to wake them up. They might be at rock bottom, finally ready to heal—and then you show up like a wrecking ball, mirroring all the possibility they carry within. You’ve done the work. You’re simply reflecting back what their life could be… if they chose that path.

But here’s the truth:
They’re not ready.
They can’t meet you with the same love you’re ready to give.

So what do you do now?
You let go.
You let go of the outcome.

Because if you try to force a relationship with someone still figuring out who they are, you’ll end up more heartbroken than before. They don’t know what they want. They don’t know how to show up. And they’re not meant to be your project.

Trust me—I’ve tried. More times than I can count.
I finally got the message.

You can’t fix them.
You can only meet them, love them from a distance, and let them do their own healing.

“But Hannah,” you might say, “the pull is so strong. If I let go, I’ll lose them forever.”

And that, my friend, is your fear talking. That’s the control speaking.
That’s your inner child in the driver’s seat—terrified of abandonment and desperate to hold on.

But the most loving thing you can do—for them and for yourself—is release the grip.
If it’s truly meant to be, it will return.
But you don’t have to wait around to find out.

Embracing My Inner Child Again

What did you love about that moment you shared with them?

Fun. Freedom. Play.
Finding joy in the small things—without needing it to “pay off.”

I spend so much time in my head that unstructured fun was exactly what I needed.
And honestly? I hadn’t felt that carefree in a long time.

But here’s the thing:
Every time I tried to turn those moments into a relationship, I would shrink.
I’d put my dreams on hold.
I’d abandon myself.

So I’m here to tell you—you have permission to let go.
You’re allowed to enjoy life without gripping so tightly to what it “should” become.

The joy you’re craving?
It’s hiding in the unexpected.

Trust the shifts. Follow what feels light.

Healing begins the moment you stop minimizing yourself for someone else—and start creating, living, and choosing just for you.

The Art of Letting Go Without Losing Hope

You may believe you need to stay small or guarded to feel safe—but the truth is, you don’t have to dim your joy just because it makes others uncomfortable. Two things can be true: you can love from afar, and you can know what you want and move toward it with integrity. Listen to your higher calling. It speaks through what lights you up, what brings clarity, and what feels easy. You’re being asked to shed the past and rise. Love doesn’t ask you to carry old versions of yourself—only to act from a soul-aligned place. Stop measuring your worth by what’s missing. You are already abundant. Healing begins when you stop chasing “enough” and start celebrating what already is.

Closing: A Message From Your Future Self

You’re making it harder than it has to be because you’re trying to control every possible outcome. But your future self already knows: the right things flow when you finally stop forcing and start trusting.

🃏 Tarot Spread: “If It’s Meant to Be, It Will Return”

1. What am I still holding onto that’s keeping me stuck?

Reveals the emotional attachment or fear you're gripping too tightly.

2. What is this connection here to teach me?

Offers clarity on the soul tie's purpose in your life.

3. How has trying to control the outcome affected my healing?

Shows how control may be blocking your growth or self-worth.

4. What part of myself have I abandoned in this dynamic?

Helps you reclaim the parts of you that were minimized for someone else.

5. What is ready to return to me when I release control?

Reveals the energy, joy, or opportunity that can now enter your life.

6. How can I best support my inner child through this?

A loving message to help soothe and reparent yourself during this transition.

7. What’s the next right step in reclaiming my power?

A simple, aligned action to take today.

📓 Journal Prompts to Go Deeper

What fear comes up when I think about letting go of this connection? Where did I learn that letting go meant loss?
What part of this relationship felt magical, and what part felt like a lesson?
When have I put my dreams or needs on hold to make a relationship work? What did it cost me?
What does my inner child need to hear right now to feel safe and supported?
What would trusting the timing of my life look like in this moment?
If I truly believed I was whole and worthy today, what would I stop waiting for?
What brings me joy right now—without needing to turn into anything else?

5 Simple Ways to Start Taking Your Power Back

1. Pay Attention to Your Body
If something feels off—like your chest tightens, your stomach sinks, or you feel drained—that’s your body trying to tell you the truth. You don’t need to explain it. Just notice it.

2. Write a Letter to Your Younger Self
Imagine the little version of you is sitting next to you. What would you say to help them feel safe and loved? Write it down. Let them know you’re here now—and they’re not alone anymore.

3. Practice Saying One Loving No
You don’t need to change everything overnight. Just try saying no one time today to something that doesn’t feel good. You can be kind and still protect your peace.

4. Create a 5-Minute Check-In
Start a tiny ritual just for you. Light a candle, write one sentence in a journal, take a deep breath, or pull a card if you’re into that. It’s not about being perfect—it’s about reconnecting to you.

5. Look for Your People
Spend time with people who make you feel safe, heard, and supported. Even if it’s just one person or an online space—it matters. You don’t have to do this alone.

✨ Comment below if this resonated. What’s one step you're taking today to choose yourself? Let's build a community of healing and unconditional love—together.

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