You Already Know - How to Start Trusting Yourself Again
The Moment I Realized I Knew
I’m an Aries — which means I tend to lead with my head over my heart. My mind is constantly on autopilot, and anytime I try to slow down and listen to myself… I immediately reach for a distraction. Scrolling, shopping, reorganizing my space, starting a new project — anything to keep my mind busy.
It makes me feel like I’m “in control” if I have a solution, if I can manage my thoughts or environment.
But here’s what I’ve realized: that constant busyness is actually blocking me from hearing my inner knowing — my intuition.
Intuition is the quiet, unshakable knowing that rises before logic has time to explain itself.
It’s the feeling in your gut.
The pull in your chest.
The whisper that says, “this isn’t right” or “this is meant for you” — even when there’s no evidence yet.
It’s not overthinking.
It’s not analyzing.
It’s not asking five friends for advice.
It’s the clarity that lives in your body before your brain gets involved. It often feels like:
A calm certainty in the middle of chaos
A deep “no” when everything else says “yes”
A magnetic “yes” when it doesn’t make sense on paper
Intuition is your soul’s GPS — a sacred inner compass that’s always been guiding you, even when you weren’t listening. It’s what you already know, underneath the noise, the fear, and the need for permission.
Why I Doubt It Sometimes
Even though I know... I still overthink.
I mean, I’m human — hello! Let me give you an example.
Recently, I matched with a guy on Facebook Dating. The first thing he said to me was,
“Hey Mama.”
Okay... I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he’s from the South? Maybe that’s just how some guys flirt?
Still, I made a mental note — with curiosity.
Then he asked to add me on Snapchat. And right away, my intuition started screaming.
This man is not dating with intention.
But of course, I wanted to give him the chance to prove me wrong.
Next, he wanted to “play a game.” The rules?
Share two things about ourselves (surface-level, of course) and one sexual thing we like.
And immediately, I knew:
This man is not serious about me. At all.
But I played along. I flirted a little, even sent a playful “hello” from my little friend (if you know what I mean 😏)...
And after a bit, I just wasn’t feeling it anymore. So I told him:
“This feels like a lot of work for a hookup.”
Then came the mixed signals.
He reassured me he was actually looking for a serious relationship — and then sent me money for coffee and breakfast.
Nice gesture? Sure.
But also a giant red flag — like… are you trying to buy silence so I don’t question your intentions?
The next day, I told him I wasn’t in the mood to talk — because, honestly, I wasn’t.
And the day after that, I thought I’d give it one more shot.
But again… surface-level, no depth, no effort. I was over it.
So I told him how I felt — tried to open up space for him to step up.
Spoiler alert: it did not go well.
He called me toxic, completely gaslit me, and pulled the classic line:
“I’m busy with work. I’m not committing to anyone on a dating app.”
Then accused me of “arguing” — all because I had standards.
LOL okay, sir… BYE.
How My Intuition Speaks to Me Now
When I’m clear, my intuition sounds like the opposite of chaos.
The moment I realized this guy was emotionally immature, I felt it — a calm, quiet knowing.
Like a peaceful nudge to choose myself.
It was divine protection.
I already knew — but I ignored it.
See, intuition doesn’t argue. It doesn’t yell.
It’s the soft voice that remains when I stop trying to prove, fix, or fight.
It simply whispers:
“This is the way,” even when I don’t want to hear it.
But instead of listening, I kept giving him the benefit of the doubt.
And in doing that, I betrayed my own inner knowing — and created more chaos than clarity.
What Happens When I Actually Listen
When I actually listen to my intuition, I feel peace.
Every time I’ve honored that inner knowing — even when it scared me — I’ve ended up more free.
There’s a quiet power in choosing alignment over approval.
In ending cycles with grace instead of grasping.
That moment I finally chose peace?
I felt lighter. Immediately.
Because when you trust your knowing, you step into your wholeness.
And when you do — the Universe meets you there, with open doors and aligned paths.
What I Know to Be True About Intuition
At the heart of it all, trusting my intuition is about emotional maturity.
I can feel deeply — without being swept away.
Here’s the truth:
Your intuition isn’t irrational.
It’s emotionally intelligent.
And the moment you stop needing it to make sense to everyone else… it will finally make sense to you.
When that moment of clarity comes, listen to it.
You don’t owe anyone the benefit of the doubt if something feels off.
Reclaim that Empress energy and bring it back home.
Nurture the version of you who already knows.
She’s not confused — she’s just been drowned out by the noise.
Now it’s time to turn the volume back up.
Next Steps
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